Have you ever found yourself sitting at the dinner table thinking about all the things you still have to do before you’re done for the night and thinking to yourself, “I just don’t have the energy”? It’s go-go-go all day every day.
It was bath night for me. I was sitting there thinking about how I had to give my oldest a bath, then dry her hair and put her to bed, and I thought “Uggh, I just don’t want to do it. I don’t have the energy.” The next day I remembered that after I had her, I would tell people all the time “She makes me laugh every day” and that’s what I loved about being a mom. But with my second child I never said that. Instead it was just a constant barrage of things to do and not enough time to do them.
While I was lucky enough to have time to sit on the couch every night (because my kids are still young and go to bed early), I would sit there pretending to relax but really I was just pretending to watch TV while messing around on my kindle feeling so restless because I knew there were a bunch of things I should be doing but I didn’t really know what any of them were.
I knew there had to be a better way. But every time I searched “How do working moms get it all done” do you know what I found? Let go. It’s the same thing everywhere. Let go of your expectations. Let go of control. Let go of your desire to have a clean house. Just face the facts, you can’t do it all.
Well I think I can. It’s a work in progress, but I don’t feel like it’s all too much anymore. I have precious little time to spend with my girls. They’re in daycare all day while I work, so when I do have time with them I want to focus on them. That’s what it’s all about. Getting it done so I can be there with my girls and not be stressed out. I want them to see me happy and having fun with them. Don’t you? I think you can do it too.